Recently I met a young mom, married, two kids under 3 and she’s in a really, REALLY abusive marriage!
Her H is verbally abusive, and at has been, at times, physically abusive, and we both think he’s possibly a narcissist…and she’s afraid of him, big time!
She recently played a recording she secretly made of her husband when he was screaming at her, screeching, cursing and threatening her…it was awful!! I mean really, really BAD!!! I’ve never heard anything like it!
I asked her turn it off after 2 mins because it was so bad, I couldn’t listen anymore, and Laurie said that’s just one of many…
I’m trying my best to encourage her, and be her friend…her pig of a husband has isolated her from all of her friends….but he’s met his match with me….been there, done that, pig man! You aren’t scaring me away!
He told Laurie several weeks ago that I’m “not nice” to him….so now I’m killing him with kindness!
Yeah, I know how to play his game…I even joke with him, just to throw him off his game, so he doesn’t see me as a threat…and it’s working! LOL! He actually came and sat next to me at a party recently…and then proceeded to threaten anyone who hurts his daughter! This man is a sicko!
He has NO idea that I’m on to him, I act kinda ditzy when I’m around him…LOL! I put on the ol dumb blonde act…no offense to any blondes out there, 😉 but I let him think he’s the “smart guy” in the room!
Really though, if you knew me, you’d see how extremely funny that is, because I’m a very intelligent woman, and I’m NOT a blonde! 😀
I’ve studied abusers, I’ve educated myself…and now I’m using that to help Laurie gain strength so she can eventually leave her abuser pig of a husband.
Its going to take time, I know that, Laurie can’t see past the fear right now…but we’ll get there.
I’m going to use my experiences with PA Man to help other woman who are in abusive marriages…maybe this will be my calling in life, maybe I CAN make a difference.
Please pray for Laurie…she really needs it…and me, that I can be a great friend, and also help her to find the freedom she needs and deserves!
DIVORCED FROM ABUSE 
“Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves; so be shrewd as serpents and innocent as doves.” Matthew 10:16
What an awesome example of this verse put into action! Using the knowledge you have gained through your own experience with these kind of wolves to help another sheep! I love the word “shrewd.” You have to be shrewd to manage a wolf. I could use a friend like you in my world, but it sounds like Laurie has it a lot worse than I do. I am glad she has you!
Seeing….I’ve now been talking to another woman from my church who filed for divorce from her abusive husband….I knew the marriage wasn’t good….but I had NO idea how abusive her husband was!
She’s also involved in an emotional affair, and I know ALL about that, since PA Man taught me all I know..UGH!
I’ve been cautioning her about the EA, and today she sent me a text telling me she needs to stop communicating with the other man…so that is good!
I told her I’ll be there for her, even though I don’t agree with the EA…but I do understand after being in such an abusive marriage, how she got involved with this other guy!
Anyway, I just pray I can always be a help to anyone who needs it 🙂 Makes what I’ve gone through a little easier to deal with, like some good has come out of the bad!
Seeing the Light…after rereading this, PLEASE email me….I’d love to have a friend like YOU in my life! 🙂
That would be great, lonelywife! How do I email you?
Okay, I just saw a quote online that is credited to a page called “Positive Energy.” I know it’s not Scripture, but it’s pretty appropriate. “Sometimes you just have to play the role of a fool to fool the fool who thinks they are fooling you.” It made me think of your post.
LOL! That is sooo true! And it’s accurate too! 😀
Lonelywife, I’m getting worried about passiveaggressiveabuse.wordpress.com. She hasn’t posted in 24 days. She doesn’t usually go that long between posts. Do you know anywhere else that she posts?
Seeingthelight…Sorry, just seeing this…I usually get notifications but I haven’t been getting them, and I’ve been out of the country for several days…
I just looked and she’s posted again…whew!
I hate that PJ disappeared…I don’t want that to happen to any of us!