I’m sitting in a hospital room with my youngest son…we’ve been here since Monday. M complained to me over the weekend that he couldn’t see out of his right eye very well…so off to the eye Dr on Monday, where I found out that he’d had a stroke in his eye, thus killing off the blood vessel. The partial blindness is permanent.
The eye Dr referred us to a retina specialist and he’s the one who sent us to the hospital…and despite several tests, MRI’s, CT scans, Spinal Tap, we really don’t have an answer as to why his eye had the stroke and for the lesions on his brain. So we wait.
M didn’t want me to tell his dad, he doesn’t want to see him… but I felt he should know, as he is the “father” in name only. So M said I could send him an email. Here is his response….
“You should have called me, I don’t check my emails often. Keep me updated. Thanks.”
So his son is in the hospital, partially blind in his eye, brain lesions…and he wants to be “updated.” Right.
Honestly, why did I expect anything more? This is the same “father” that when his other son had to have an emergency appendectomy…went home to take a “quick shower” before coming to the hospital, instead of coming straight there to be with his son, and to see him before he went in for his surgery. He missed him by the way…by about 30 mins.
So after that email, he sends another one an hour later…I’m sure this was after he’d had a chance to confer with his flying monkeys!
“Let me tell you something Terri, M is my son too just like yours don’t you ever tell me I can’t talk to him or see him.”
I didn’t tell him that. I told him that M didn’t want to see him or talk to him, so PLEASE respect his boundaries. Sheesh!
And now here’s the rest of the story….
He came to the hospital on Wed. even though I’d emailed him and told him that our son didn’t want to see him, and to please respect his wishes….I told him that I’d give him info via email when I knew something.
He responded back with “I wish you would have called me, I don’t check my email that every hour. Keep me updated.” And then an hour later, “Let me explain something to you Terri, M is my son just like yours, don’t ever tell me that I can’t see him don’t ever tell me I can’t call him!”
Well, Hello I only relayed my sons wishes to not see YOU!!
So of course being a Narc, what does he do…he shows up at the hospital the next day, because of course he has the RIGHT to….so when he walked in, my son asked “What are you doing here?” And the ex tells him he loves him and wanted to see him, so M says “You don’t love me, you’re making us sell the house, I have to move, I don’t want to move, you promised me that I wouldn’t have to move!”
He then startes accusing me of lying to my son, etc…I asked him to leave twice and he refused, so I told him I was calling security and I did. He was so angry! He left before they got here, but security took his description and said if he shows up again to call them immediately.
So yesterday the nurse comes to my room and says, “Your ex is on the phone wanting info…what do you want me to do?” I asked her to give him no info at all, and she came back and said he tried threatening her, saying he has a right to know, that he says paying his insurance, that he’s his father, etc.
And then yesterday, he showed up at my house and tried to come in! My mother was there and heard his key in the lock so she held the deadbolt lock so it wouldn’t turn…he got angry, thinking we’d changed the locks, but the lock was my mighty mama’s hands holding on for dear life! LOL!
So he then goes down the driveway and opens my mailbox and takes the mail out!! My son was also home and was watching from the window….he said he was on the phone and gesturing wildly and he could see he was angry! Unbelievable!
His anger is really getting out of control! He left, but my brother called my mother….he’s toxic and I went no contact with him years ago, and he demands that mama open the door for the ex, because he has “every right to come into HIS house and get HIS things, because it’s the perfect time because I’m at the hospital!!” Mama told home No, and my brother started yelling at her! She hung up on him!
When my son called to tell me what happened, I started shaking and called security and they came up and moved us to a new room, as a precaution, so the ex can’t find us if he comes up here again.
M is now on a list that if anyone calls asking what room he is in, they will be told that he’s not a patient here.
This is all so unbelievable! I’m starting to seriously get worried that he might try to harm me!
And now the vile ex has gotten his attorney involved also, so like a snake, she’s risen up her hissing head and is making threats to my attorney, accusing me of not abiding by the mediation agreement that the house be put on the market immediately, accusing me of “stalling” by not meeting with the realtor…because of course, I’m lying around, eating bon-bons, relaxing on a beach somewhere, right? 😡
Funny thing is, when I talked to my attorney, the vile ex and his attorney “forgot” to mention to my attorney that my son is in the hospital, with partial vision loss and possibly facing a horrible disease, undergoing MRI’s, CT Scans, lumbar puncture and having 54 vials…so far…of blood withdrawn!
But let us all remember. He LOVES his son!!!