This Is Truth!!

Can Abusers Change?

To say that abusers cannot change removes responsibility for sin. They can change, but the vast majority choose not to, which is what the experts state. When God punishes them, their punishment is just. Abusers have options for treatment and are accountable.

Once the marriage covenant is broken through abuse, the abused partner does not need to stay in the marriage waiting for the abuser to change. The abuser’s recovery is a separate issue and his change is his own responsibility, not his wife’s. This is the mistake most churches make. These churches have over-sentimentalized marriage and are legalists.” From A Cry for Justice blog

Do you catch that one sentence??
“They can change, but the vast majority CHOOSE not to!!”
And THAT is the problem! They choose not to!
So if you’re living with an abuser…they are choosing NOT to change…and that is also why, when you’re out in public, or with family and friends, they can act like loving husbands and fathers!
They are CHOOSING to act that way, whether it’s the good guy or the abusive, hateful guy, he is choosing to act that way!!

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2 thoughts on “This Is Truth!!

  1. Of course they choose to be that way. Think about it, when they are nice to us to get what they want, they are choosing to be nice. Sooooo…when they are abusive, they are choosing to be abusive. They know the difference.

    Wouldn’t it be nice to have an abusive detector? Like the metal detectors? 😀 Just walk the ol’ spouse through it and watch the lights and screeching sirens go crazy! 😀 LOL I have to work on my inner detector for my peace and safety.

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