So today PA Man asked me for the info for the counselor I told him about several weeks ago…and I gave it to him.
What he actually does with it, who knows??
But what I do know is that I don’t care anymore if he goes or not..
The last few weeks have been tense, so much so that my youngest son started speaking up and telling his dad that he NEEDS counseling, and telling his dad that he’s hurting our family by not getting help!
Last week (Thursday) he again mentioned counseling to his dad. And he asked PA Man to PROMISE he’d make an appointment the very next day, Friday, and PA Man promised…well, of course his promises are as empty as his heart…and he didn’t make the appointment…(I knew he wouldn’t!)
So on Saturday my son AGAIN asked his dad WHY didn’t he make the appt. and of course PA Man had all kinds of excuses…but my son called it what it is….a LIE!
Shame on YOU PA Man! Shame.On.You!!
Anyway, my son and I have really had some good talks the last few days…and I’ve encouraged him to pray for his dad, and when I pray with him at night before bed, I pray for PA Man, that he will trust God and do what’s best for our family.
But you know what’s happening now?
That scared kid, the one who if he heard the word D-I-V-O-R-C-E would start crying and plead with me to not divorce his dad….he now has told me he understands how it must hurt me that his dad lies to me…and he actually said today that maybe it WOULD be better for his dad to move out!!! Wow!!
I’m telling you, it HAS to be God working in his heart, giving him peace to trust that I will do the right thing and am trying to protect this family the best way I know how…even if that means asking his dad for a separation!
All of my children have said they will support me if we separate. I’ve had an opportunity this weekend to speak to each of them individually and to lay out all that has been happening, the “growling” incident, the anger, the silences, etc…
So it will come as no surprise when we do separate.
As of this weekend, one of us will be sleeping in the spare bedroom…I’m hoping PA Man will be a “gentleman” and move in there, but if not, I’ll be moving in.
Also, I won’t be making PA Mans lunch the night before…either he will be making his own lunch for work the next day, or he’ll buy junk fast food, which we don’t eat…it’s his choice. I stopped doing his laundry a while back, or else I would stop that also!
I’m setting more boundaries in place…he’s ignored the ones I’ve set in place so far…so moving into the spare room is a must. He needs to know I’m serious, that there is no more room for manipulation in MY life and home!
If he wants this marriage, he needs to work for it…because I refuse to do so. I’m done.