I’m reading a book right now that I have to tell you all about because it is blowing me away and I’m not even half way through it!!
Its a book by Leslie Vernick called The Emotionally Destructive Marriage and I have to tell you…if you’re a Christian woman and have questioned WHY your marriage is the way it is…and WHY God is not answering your desperate prayers for a different marriage, you HAVE to buy this book ASAP and read it!
Leslie really hits hard on the church and how they are letting women down, women who come to them begging for help, only to be told it’s THEIR fault and they aren’t respecting their husbands enough and to go home and be even more subservient to their husbands!!
NEWSFLASH!!!! I loved this quote from the book….
“God does not value men more than women, or the institution of marriage more than the people who are in it.
He wants to help you know how to heal and what to do to bring true restoration to your destructive marriage.
He also knows that because of the hardness of your husbands heart, true reconciliation of your relationship isn’t always possible.”
FINALLY!! Here is someone who GETS it!! After having it hammered into my head for years that my husband is the “leader” in the home, and I have be “submissive” here is a woman who truly understands emotional abuse within a marriage!
And that sometimes…it’s better to get OUT!!!
I’ve also watched several of Leslie’s Youtube videos, and I’m telling you…it’s made me feel so much better about how I’m reacting to PA Man…and it’s lessoned the guilt I feel for not loving and respecting him like he wants and expects!!
I CAN’T love and respect a man that is emotionally abusing me…it’s not normal…so the fact that I feel this way…means I AM normal, but my marriage isn’t!!
I’ll write a follow up post after I finish the book….now, back to my reading!! 🙂